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Hey Butker, bro, you good?
Seems like you’re having some feelings. Nothing wrong with that! But when you find yourself hijacking a college graduation to vent your own personal grievances against women, queers, inclusion, and the church, it’s a bit of a red flag. There’s a lot of anger tucked under that beard, huh, bud?
Never fear, my dude! You have a lot of unpacking to do, but there are books to guide you through it all. To make it as simple as kicking a ball between two poles, I categorized most of them under words from your own speech.
(I thought about including The Stepford Wives and The Handmaid’s Tail on this list but worried you’d take them literally, so for now let’s stick to non-fic.)
When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion by Laura E. Anderson
‘THE CULTURAL EMASCULATION OF MEN’
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
For the Love of Men: From Toxic to a More Mindful Masculinity by Liz Plank
Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America by Ijeoma Oluo
‘THE MOST IMPORTANT TITLE OF ALL: HOMEMAKER’
Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power by Rose Hackman
I Don't by Clementine Ford
This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life by Lyz Lenz
‘THE DEADLY SIN OF PRIDE’
The Yards Between Us: A Memoir of Life, Love & Football by R.K. Russell
Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith by Mihee Kim-Kort
EXTRA CREDIT:
True Tales of Medical Physics: Insights Into a Life-Saving Specialty by Jacob Van Dyk
Because your mom is a Medical Physicist, dude. Can’t help but wonder if you’ve told her she would’ve been happier if she’d chosen the life of a homemaker over her two degrees and a Radiology career.
I don't want to start a fight, but what about Buttkin's speech gave you the impression he could read?
I suspect his young wife is starting to find herself And want some freedom
To be herself
He had to put that hammer down