How many times do we have to see a female pop star harassed to the point of breakdown before we understand? It’s all ‘no is a full sentence’ until our fave doesn’t want their photo taken and suddenly they are ungrateful divas who don’t deserve their success.
I quit the socials abiut six months ago because I felt burnt out, but also I started studying how to grow on social, like the real data, and I was like, 'this is way too much work' I don't want to have to make four reels a week plus stories, plus posts plus try to write, plus run my business. I also don't need random people knowing anything about me. It's weird now because I feel like because most of my younger friends share constantly online when I catch up with them, I have no idea what is going on in their lives because I'm not on social media. I also felt like I knew waaaaayyyy too much private information about their children. Children who can't consent to having that information shared.
As someone who has just begun sharing online, I needed to read this! I’ve been trying to find the balance/difference between authentic vulnerability vs turning my privacy and trauma into public consumption. I think I’ll gain a lot from these words, thank you for writing!
Also, even if the argument "she knew what she was getting into" held any merit for those who achieve fame later in life (which I'm not saying it does), it so clearly does *not* hold merit in the case of child stars like Brittany Spears. I dreamed of being a pop singer like her when I was young. I would have signed a record deal without a moment's hesitation. Now I shudder to think of getting that kind of attention.
Yes to all of this. Maybe this has been spoken about before by women in a place of immense exposure as a singer, actor, etc. - but I feel like previously the issue had been danced around more to preserve fan’s opinions. Like catering to them. But this is so direct and you feel the lines being drawn with her words. I’m so happy she is doing this (esp as a neurodivergent individual who is now trying to do this in my late 40s). She is brave and deserves her peace too. No one signs up for this - and she is helping to abolish that narrative. ❤️
Love this! I can also relate to the overall sentiment that we need to be able to protect ourselves from limitless accessibility. It’s so much harder when part of your person/personality is used to market services or products or in the case for Chappell, her music. Can’t imagine the pressure and just plain fear.
Like physic vampires, we, the public, suck the creativity and enjoyment out of the artistry they are creating. What they give us is never enough. Give us more and give it to us now!
And when they kill themselves or burnout we all cry our crocodile tears asking how could this have happened?
Let them be. There should be no pressure put on the artists to fulfill whatever ( devils) contract they first signed to be heard.
I quit the socials abiut six months ago because I felt burnt out, but also I started studying how to grow on social, like the real data, and I was like, 'this is way too much work' I don't want to have to make four reels a week plus stories, plus posts plus try to write, plus run my business. I also don't need random people knowing anything about me. It's weird now because I feel like because most of my younger friends share constantly online when I catch up with them, I have no idea what is going on in their lives because I'm not on social media. I also felt like I knew waaaaayyyy too much private information about their children. Children who can't consent to having that information shared.
As someone who has just begun sharing online, I needed to read this! I’ve been trying to find the balance/difference between authentic vulnerability vs turning my privacy and trauma into public consumption. I think I’ll gain a lot from these words, thank you for writing!
Also, even if the argument "she knew what she was getting into" held any merit for those who achieve fame later in life (which I'm not saying it does), it so clearly does *not* hold merit in the case of child stars like Brittany Spears. I dreamed of being a pop singer like her when I was young. I would have signed a record deal without a moment's hesitation. Now I shudder to think of getting that kind of attention.
Yes to all of this. Maybe this has been spoken about before by women in a place of immense exposure as a singer, actor, etc. - but I feel like previously the issue had been danced around more to preserve fan’s opinions. Like catering to them. But this is so direct and you feel the lines being drawn with her words. I’m so happy she is doing this (esp as a neurodivergent individual who is now trying to do this in my late 40s). She is brave and deserves her peace too. No one signs up for this - and she is helping to abolish that narrative. ❤️
On topic https://open.substack.com/pub/laurenhough/p/chappell-roan-doesnt-owe-you-shit?r=37ox3e&utm_medium=ios
Parasocial parasites 😫
Fantastic article and so important to discuss 👏🏻 no is a full sentence 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Love this! I can also relate to the overall sentiment that we need to be able to protect ourselves from limitless accessibility. It’s so much harder when part of your person/personality is used to market services or products or in the case for Chappell, her music. Can’t imagine the pressure and just plain fear.
Like physic vampires, we, the public, suck the creativity and enjoyment out of the artistry they are creating. What they give us is never enough. Give us more and give it to us now!
And when they kill themselves or burnout we all cry our crocodile tears asking how could this have happened?
Let them be. There should be no pressure put on the artists to fulfill whatever ( devils) contract they first signed to be heard.
I love her!
Thank you for posting this. And thank you for the picture of Harry. His toe beans are awesome!
"I felt gross for sharing as much as I already had."
Understood and under-reported-on feeling.